It's the Blue Magic season (if we're still in the 90s)! Piles of chocolates are arranged neatly by the entrance of the supermarkets and flowers and heart-shaped red candies in sticks are in every corner. Memes are trending about how couples would probably do Netflix and chill on Valentine's Day while single people would do just Netflix, and maybe some bottles of wine and self-bought chocolates. 

Which is totally fine, I mean for the singletons. It's the day to celebrate love - and because love comes in different shapes and sizes, celebrating self-love totally counts! 

Valentine's Day has always been special to me though I haven't been in a relationship for as long as I can remember. And being alone and spending more time with myself made me realize that it's way more fun to buy myself books and read them in a coffee shop rather than carry a Blue Magic paperbag that was given to me half-heartedly. It's a lot cooler to buy myself varieties of dark chocolates rather than receive expired ones (true story, not shitting at all). It's a lot more exciting to eat dinner with my girlfriends after raiding Forever 21 and H&M and taking selfies in the fitting rooms on a work night (at least, during the pre-pandemic era).

This year, the weekend right before Valentine's Day means hanging out with my fangirling buddies (my cousin and our pretty niece) to celebrate Junmyeon's discharge. It would mean treating myself to unagi don as Nicole said it was superb. And probably a 2-hour hot stone massage session, plus maybe a cake for dessert after family dinner. 

On the day itself, I'll be working. And maybe you will be too, but that doesn't mean there's nothing we can do to make that day extraordinary.

Buy the shoes you've been thinking of before someone else snatch them (sniff sniff I have TOTGA from Sketchers) Make yourself a nice meal, and it can be as complicated as pochero, or as simple as steamed rice topped with fried diced luncheon meat, mayo, and sriracha sprinkled with sesame seeds and some torn nori on the side. Take a long, hot shower using your favorite shower gel. Light your favorite scented candle. Put on a face serum and a sheet mask (The Face Shop is having another 5+5). Pop a rom-com on your laptop, or that Kdrama you've been meaning to watch but haven't found the time to do so. Wrap yourself with a blanket. Take a sip of the merlot that's been sitting in your fridge since Christmas.

Love yourself a little bit more. Love yourself in the way that you want to be loved, so that you don't need to find it somewhere else. Love yourself enough to be your own Valentine. 


Never waste your sunsets with people who will be gone by sunrise.